In my earlier post, I asked “Is kinky hair hard and straight hair easy-peasy?”. Hard is relative. That means in this social world we inhabit we tend to make comparisons in order to determine something’s value. Thus, for kinky hair to be “hard” this must mean that it’s been compared to something else and found to be more difficult. In this –case, kinky hair has been compared to straight hair. However, if a woman with a full head of kinky hair complained about her hair being “hard” to an involuntarily bald woman, I think the bald woman might slap her. In other words, we must examine the comparison that we’re using to determine our hair’s value. Why did “easy to detangle” became a key indicator of hair’s value? Is this about time? I admit, it can be an absolute pain in the butt to spend an hour or more detangling my hair so that I can get it ready for washing or styling. Yes, I have rolled my eyes at fellow gym-showerers who wash their hair, towel up, dress and dart out of the locker room all before I’ve even gotten all of my hair products arranged just so on that itty bitty shower bench. There are definitely times (especially after a 6AM spinning class and before the 8AM class I teach) when I WISHHHHHHHH I could be done in 5 – 10 minutes if I wash my hair. However, for the most part, that is not my reality. I have come to accept that. I may still suck my teeth and ask, “Why God, why?” when I’m gingerly working through my sopping wet head, praying that the product doesn’t goop up leaving me looking like I rolled my head in popcorn. That is just me. But, all in all, I LOVE my hair. I love what it can do, how soft it is, how versatile it is, how Black it is. I love it.
But, I first needed to realize that things that take time are not necessarily bad and things that are quick and convenient are not always “the best”. Take food for example. Let’s say you have turkey deli slices on one hand and a roasted turkey on the other hand. If we applied the above hair value algorithm (quick = best and superior, longer time = hard and inferior), we’d argue that turkey deli slices are superior to a roasted turkey.
REALLY?! Don’t get me wrong, I love a turkey BLT, a turkey Reuben. When I want something quick and tasty, those are amazing choices. However, when you have the time, deli slices just don’t compare to a well-cooked roasted turkey. Try as you might, it is much more difficult to take turkey deli slices and make a gourmet meal. Yet, with a roasted turkey you can make soup, sandwiches, salad, hot food, cold food. You get the picture. Yes, deli slices are quick and convenient (and tasty!), but that quick convenience means you lose out on versatility. If you value versatility, all of a sudden, quickness and convenience may recede in importance.
Whatever YOU have embrace it. My point is this, if you have versatile hair embrace IT. It may mean that you have to take more time, but that’s life. If you have quick/convenient hair, embrace IT! It may mean that you have less versatility, but that’s life. Let’s live it.
Introspection: Ask yourself what you value about your hair. Most importantly, ask yourself WHY you value it. Please share your thoughts on the site!
Happy New Year!