Harold movie poster
Good day everyone! I recently watched a movie on Netflix called “Harold”. Here is a description of the movie on NetFlix:
“Fitting in at his new high school is tough for Harold (Spencer Breslin), especially since he suffers from early male-pattern baldness. With mean classmates making his life miserable, Harold tries to turn his luck around by taking the advice of a caring janitor (Cuba Gooding Jr.). Co-starring Ally Sheedy, Nikki Blonsky and Chris Parnell, this delightful comedy cleverly depicts the harsh realities of being an outsider.”
Ohhhh how I felt for Harold. I couldn’t relate to everything because, fortunately, I was not the recipient of bullying. It was so interesting to me that the whole premise of the movie was how a child would be tormented for his bald pate, how his hair could make him an outsider. I can relate to feeling like an outsider Harold. I have been there. On numerous occasions, I’ve shared how I felt almost like a water-aversive alien because of my hair; afraid of rain, pools, humidity, even a crazy fool with a water hose. Thanks be to God, I’ve learned (am learning) to accept my hair in all of its glory (even in its smashed, half frizzy state as I type this). No, I’m not equating kinky / coily hair to male pattern baldness. But, what I am doing is recognizing that we all have identity battles, as we work hard to figure out how we fit in in this world. May this year bring you self-discovery and self-acceptance as we strive to become the best people that we can be. Hugs to you all.
If you or someone you know has experience with male pattern baldness, I’d love to hear more about your experience. Please email me at email@example.com to schedule a chat. Thanks!
Happy New Year! I’ve been on hiatus but I’ve been working on hairasidentity.com, conducting research on hair as identity and editing a ton of interviews I’ve conducted on the topic. Stay tuned as I share some interesting insights.
It has been a LONG time since I’ve written a blog post and, during that time, three key things have happened! First, I’ve been working on Hairasidentity.com. I hope that you like it. It’s taken a lot of blood, sweat and tears to get it to its current state and I love the progress we’ve made. Of course, things can always be better so please share your comments on what you like and don’t like about the updated site. A special shout out to 99designs.com for helping me find a designer for my new logo. Specifically, Rudi4911 was amazing and did a great job creating a logo that captures how hair is both a physical and psychological reflection of our identity.
Second, I’ve been conducting research on hair as identity and I’ll be sharing various study results on the website. Results? Well, let’s just say that we have our work cut out for us as we work to create a society where all hair types are embraced in professional settings. I have some ideas on how to bring this about and I’ll be sure to share my thoughts and research insights.
Third, I’ve been developing content for the website by interviewing various personalities on how hair reflects identity. For example, I’ve spoken with human resources professionals, hair stylists, judges, students, administrative professionals and people I met on the street. I am NOT a video editing expert and it is taking me FOREVER to get the interviews the way that I want them. Rather than wait any longer, I decided to upload what I have and work on it from there. One thing I’ve learned about entrepreneurship is that action is required! Happy New Year and I look forward to reconnecting with many of you. J
This photo was taken by Adam Cohn in Accra, Ghana. The image is so engaging and it looks like we’re getting a glimpse into Ghanaian life. I cannot quite tell how the hairstyle is done but it looks like it might be a double strand twist out (see Nikki Mae’s YouTube tutorial for step-by-step instructions:
I am also taken by the vibrant hue of the woman’s hair (I wish I knew her name!). I haven’t yet colored my natural hair but, I must say, I love her hair color on her! What do you think?
This picture by Stuck in Customs (aka Trey Ratcliff) is so peaceful. The beautiful lighting makes it almost look like the person is ascending into the heavenly realm. Here is the picture’s description on Flikr:
“A 94-year-old woman ascends the final stairs in the 272-step ascent in the Batu Caves, a pilgrimage site in Malaysia for over 800,000 Hindus per year.
Her hair is 3 meters long (about 9 feet). She has never cut it her entire life. It is so long, she has to fold it back and forth a few times and wrap it to keep it from dragging behind.”
The picture comes from Trey’s daily photo blog found at www.stuckincustoms.com. Trey, thank you for such beautiful work! So inspiring!
I am in awe of the picture and the story behind the picture. To think that a 94-year-old woman has never cut her hair. Just one more way to know that hair matters.
This photo was taken by Giulia Gasparro and I found it in the Commons on Flickr. I LOVE it. It is rare to see such an up close shot of a man’s cornrows and I love the composition of the photo. This picture is particularly interesting to me given a recent resurgence of interest in Hampton University’s ban on cornrows and dreadlocks for men in its five year MBA program (http://www.wvec.com/my-city/hampton/Business-school-dean-stands-by-ban-on-dreadlocks-and-cornrows-166809246.html). On one hand, Dean Credle (Hampton University’s business school dean) argues that the ban is simply designed to help students get the job and that what students do after they’re hired is up to them. On the other hand, those who disagree with the ban state that hair should have nothing to do with employment prospects. What do you think: should certain hairstyles be banned for college students? For employees?
When you see the image of a purple and green mohawk, what do you think of? Rebellion? Anarchy? Creativity? Independence? I often wonder about the conditions that drive one person to view this hairstyle in a negative way, while someone else views it in a positive way. The shades and studded necklace contribute to the look. What are your thoughts? Would you want the person in this picture working for you? Why or why not? I’d love to hear your thoughts!
As I was shaving my face this morning I thought of Tina Opie’s post on hair and identity. She raises some interesting questions. From a male perspective, I know that the expectation in a professional setting is to either be clean-shaven or if we choose to wear a beard/mustache, the expectation is that it be neatly trimmed.
I recently wrote a Post on facial hair and I am delighted to publish commentary that I received. Mr. Amir Reza wrote an interesting personal piece on his experience with facial hair. Here it is; I hope you enjoy it as much as I did!
“Men and Facial Hair” by Amir Reza
As I was shaving my face this morning I thought of Tina Opie’s post on hair and identity. She raises some interesting questions. From a male perspective, I know that the expectation in a professional setting is to either be clean-shaven or if we choose to wear a beard/mustache, the expectation is that it be neatly trimmed. I recall when I stopped shaving a few years ago during vacation and decided not to shave before returning to work – that period when your beard hasn’t fully grown in and you are not clean-shaven is interesting – there were colleagues that loved the facial hair and others that didn’t care for it. There wasn’t much in between. Most everyone had an opinion one way or another. There were many questions; was I going to grow it indefinitely? Would I consider a goatee? What did others think about my new look?
Mr. Reza sporting a beard
There were also joking comments about my identity as a Middle Eastern American and what facial hair meant in light of the stereotypical terrorist suspect. This makes me think of that period after September 11, 2001 when the Department of Homeland Security instituted color-coded threat levels and profiling of Middle Easterners (in particular young men) was prevalent. I recall half-jokingly commenting to my friends that if the color code was “orange” or higher I would definitely shave, lest I be profiled as “one of them.” Maz Jobrani (an Iranian-American comedian) has a funny segment on this topic – “you don’t want to be Middle Eastern and show up at the airport with a beard!” (watch here minute 3:50 of this youtube video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fYlaIxNX01Q ).
Returning to Opie’s blog on facial hair, it seems that facial hair is a political & social matter for men, whether you are running for office or trying to navigate society (east or west). As for me, I ended up shaving my beard/mustache eventually, not because of my colleagues’ comments, but because my two-year old daughter didn’t want to kiss me because I was too itchy!
Mr. Reza sans beard
What do you all think? Please share any thoughts that Mr. Reza’s story triggered in your mind. Thanks for reading!